MONOGAMY: Is it the reality of relationships today or just an illusion?
Do you think sexual fidelity to one person is a doomed aspiration or is it a way to create a loving relationship that lasts? Inquiring minds wanna know.
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Do you think sexual fidelity to one person is a doomed aspiration or is it a way to create a loving relationship that lasts? Inquiring minds wanna know.
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Приветствую, ребята!
Друзья, у меня есть отличная новость – я нашел прокси-сервера, которые меня очень впечатлили!
Недавно я столкнулся с необходимостью обхода блокировок определённых сайтов, и решил попробовать использовать прокси-серверы. После долгих поисков я наткнулся на компанию, предоставляющую просто великолепные услуги в этой области.
Что меня так впечатлило? Во-первых, скорость – страницы загружаются моментально, без каких-либо задержек. Во-вторых, стабильность – не было ни одного случая пропажи соединения или перебоев в работе. И, конечно же, анонимность и безопасность – я могу быть уверенным, что мои данные защищены и мои действия в интернете остаются конфиденциальными.
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Приветствую, ребята!
Друзья, у меня есть отличная новость – я нашел прокси-сервера, которые меня очень впечатлили!
Недавно я столкнулся с необходимостью обхода блокировок определённых сайтов, и решил попробовать использовать прокси-серверы. После долгих поисков я наткнулся на компанию, предоставляющую просто великолепные услуги в этой области.
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Monogamy, like anything worthwhile, needs working at. Whether it is natural or not is fankly beyond the point. If everything was easy, boredom will set in and that can lead to trouble. I have seen it from both the male and the female perspective. If you love your partner you will try and keep the relationship interesting and not take each other for granted. That way monogamy is not a burden but life enhancing.
There is a problem today with instant gratification and the junking of imperfect goods or relationships which does make monogamy that much more difficult for either side of a relationship. Frankly the human race has struggled with this one throughout history,for various different reasons. The perfect relationship is an illusion so all relationships have to be worked at to make them as 'perfect' as is possible for both partners in the relationship. Quite frankly perfect people are boring and it is our imperfections that make us interesting, although it does mean monogamy has to be worked at.
Whoa....
deep...
As expected you pretty much got a mixed bag of answers.
You could very well say that it is an illusion. A mystical fairytale that comes from an age of chivalry and dowries.
But I've always thought that's an over simplification, and totally disregards how monogamy in some form or another appears in the deep well of the human collective unconscious. Cultures through the ages have depended on monogamy, from an evolutionary standpoint, for the survival of our species.
You can make a case that because of modern times monogamy is slowly becoming obsolete. But in actuality it's pretty much just moved from evolutionary imperative to lifestyle choice. And there is nothing wrong with that, just like there is nothing wrong with polyamory (certain forms.)
It's not a matter of real or illusion, it's what you choose to do and are comfortable with.
I've lived on both sides of the spectrum and i've realised that the multiple partner game just isn't for me.
Maybe a one off lustful threesome every now and then, sure thats ok, I guess. But as a permanent lifestyle. I just can't do it. I come from a long line of "womanizers" My dad, grand dad, uncles etc... they all play that game.
Some are happy with it, like my grand dad, whose in his mid 70's and is still juggling 3 to 5 women. Some are unhappy with it. It depends on the person you are.
People can be faithful. It's just a matter of will power, restraint and most importantly choice. I've been a cheater, and I currently am extremely faithful. When I was unfaithful, I knew exactly what I was doing. So does every person. There are no Idle hands, no man behind the curtain.
It's choice.
There are just as much faithful men and women as there are unfaithful.
The problem stems from people not being open and honest about what they want.
I've never cheated on anyone, but I've been tempted more times than I can count, and the temptation has usually had an emotional component as well; but I've been the "other man" on a couple of occasions and I know that the lie a man tells himself when desire comes into conflict with the morality knowing he will damage an established relationship is he will start to justify himself by saying to himself "that guy doesn't deserve her. Actually he treats her quite badly. I'd be better for her than he is." - I call it the Jack and the Beanstalk complex, after reading of so many other complexes named after myths and fairy tales - for example some women have Sleeping Beauty complexes where they refuse to make any positive action in their romantic choices because she imagines somebody will come along and "waken her up" - anyway basically The Jack and the Beanstalk complex is we tell ourselves it's all right to steal from an ogre, so we make the other guy into an ogre so we're justified in cheating on him. What we fail to acknowledge is she has responsibility for her own love life, she shouldn't need a white knight to rescue her from a relationship that's dead - if she hasn't the courage to leave a dead relationship on her own, then she will show the same cowardice when she tires of you.
This is a topic that has recently come in to question personally. Up until now I just assumed it was down to personal choice. I never doubted a person's ability to be monogamous (irrespective of sex) as surely it's a decision, a choice, a question of integrity, respect for your partner and altogether something that people have the luxury of based on the fact we are blessed with powers of reason, free will and conscious thought. I realise it's a cliche but men seem to have a tendency to be 'built' slightly differently to women in terms of their views and emotional involvement when it comes to sex and as a result of instinct they generally don't seem to be as discerning in terms of who they sleep with in a casual context either. However, within a loving relationship I would like to believe that every man has the ability to be monogamous based on his strength of character and the level of respect he has for his partner and hope that would override any primal/instinctual urges they might have. A man is only as good as his word and that goes for every aspect of that person's life not just romantic relationships and for me that is an important quality in a person - friend or lover.
I realise there will be occasions where fidelity is put to the test as we are all human but I also think that at the end of the day, men as much as women prize the idea of having that partner in life to turn to, to fall asleep with, to love and be loved by etc and a passing temptation would not be worth the risk of losing all that and betraying the person you love.
However, men and their ability to be monogamous has recently repeatedly been called into question for me - whether it has been propositions from married men, hearing stories of people's infidelity or meeting men who doubt the basic premise and thus cannot give me any kind of certainty as to whether they can remain faithful long term. Aside from this issue leaving me questioning if I am simply naive when it comes to relationships and whether I am in fact searching for a romantic ideal that just does not exist, my gut instinct it to consider it a cop out.
It seems to me that regardless of whether adultery has taken place throughout history, in modern times it seems to tie in with the modern condition and the crisis relationships are in these days. No one wants to put any effort in to maintaining a relationship - yes of course it should be fun and enjoyable but when the going gets tough, or even slightly inconvenient (!), people are all too ready to throw in the towel because they have been promised that there is plenty more where that came from. Of course things change but in this insta-world we live in today, everyone wants instant results, instant gratification, no one wants to work for anything, it should arrive fully-formed on a plate and nothing is built to last. The grass is always greener, the media peddle ideals that do not exist and yet people seem to believe that if they haven't attained these (and they won't, it's impossible) then they can just move on because perfection is just around the corner. If anything requires effort or conviction then fundamentally it must be flawed so the right thing to do is to jack it in and move on, nothing is sacred. It's the "get rich quick", casual sex era because it's quick, easy and temporarily satisfying.
There is too much choice nowadays, which is admittedly not always a bad thing, but a side-effect of this is no one can decide on anything be it careers, lifestyle, hobbies, partners…but the sad reality is that without the nurturing that's required, this insta-life is going to be all style no substance. Call me old-fashioned but where is the fulfilment in that?
So tell me, how is the human species going extinct, exactly ?
If poligamy was widely accepted, we would be trampling over each other.
It may be every animal´s prime directive to reproduce, but thats on an instinctive level. Humans have an intellect, they think instead of acting purely on instinct, just as you yourself exemplified.
What humans REALLY do acting on instinct, is stick with each other, using a set of conventions that unifies a set of values and common beliefs, which we call society. Humans are much more than just a tall monkey that eats, sleeps, and has sex everytime it has a chance to. Humans are, rather, a gregarious being by nature.
some people like to be with one person. some people like to be with many at one time. neither is wrong and it's just about communication
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